'PS - he forgot the milk': Mum's post about her husband states he does not 'help'
We call ourselves MagicMum for a reason – and that's simply because us mums are truly magic.
We don't know how we do it, but we magically make our daily chores seem simple to our children and partner; even if we do end up looking slightly unhinged.
Cleaning, cooking, school pick-up, homework, activities – there's very little we DON'T do in a day!
But where would we be without our partners who take half the load after a long hard day at work?
Well we'd be in the same position considering we had a long hard day working too…
With the perception that dads are amazing people for taking their children out in afternoons, taking care of them or simply allowing them tag along while doing the shopping, it can be frustrating for mums.
And it would seem that it happens more frequently than we even thought; as Tova Leigh explains she's tired of the praise her husband is showered with for being a dad.
"Yesterday my husband took the girls with him to do the food shop. When he got home he told me that several people had said 'well done' after seeing him walking around the supermarket with three children and a full shopping cart."
"Now, don't get me wrong – it was great that he did it, (I mean, it was either that or we would have had a shoe for dinner), but at the same time I do wonder how many of the mums who were also at the supermarket shopping for their families with their kids received any praise for doing so?"
And Tova is going to guess that none of those ladies received praise for having their children in tow while pushing a full cart, something which is quite a regular occurrence for mums:
"How many times have we pushed a full shopping cart with one hand while breastfeeding a baby and dragging an annoying toddler who is throwing a fit because we said 'no' to an ice cream?"
The mum-of-three considers how mums keep the 'little monsters' alive each day, how it is up to us to change that dreaded toilet roll as seemingly no one else apart from your mum is capable of such a task, asking: "Trophy anyone?"
Tova is just completely over the fact that dads are praised for being just that, dads. That there is some sort of belief out there they're miracle workers for doing what is in fact required:
"My point is, I am so sick of the idea that the men in our lives, the fathers of our children, the adults that we chose to spend the rest of our lives with, are looked at by society as babysitters or 'help', or freakin' heroes for simply being our PARTNERS."
"Let me tell you something, my husband does not 'help' me with our kids. He does not do me a 'favour' by taking them out for an hour to do the food shop because the fridge is empty and I have to work."
"He lives in this house, he wants to have food to eat, and he is perfectly capable of spending time with his own children."
However, this is one mum who does appreciate her husband and everything he does for their family in equal measure, knowing that it is a team effort.
"He is an amazing father, […], he is a total keeper and most days I adore him (seriously, change the goddam paper roll!), but let's face it – he did not solve world hunger or find the cure for cancer. He just did the food shop!"
Nonetheless, he still forgot the milk! Lol.
We love our dads, but we do feel Tova makes a pretty good point all the same – how frustrating.
Congratulating dads for being dads is something that has creeped into society quite recently – do you think mums are blowing it out of proportion, or do you believe mums deserve to be praised in equal measure?