One dad's eye-opening post: 'Whatever message she was trying to send him was rejected because of sheer arrogance'
Dad-of-two Brad Kearns, aka DaDMuM, took to his Facebook page to share a particularly eye-opening post – and one that has left us seriously thinking about our Facebook interactions.
Admitting that he would get annoyed by the sheer volume of stuff his wife would tag him in on the social media site, the blogger said that eventually he learned that she was doing it for a reason.
“Every day she tags me in stuff on Facebook,” he writes.
“Every day. Like several times a day. As if she bounces around the internet just looking for random sh*t to let me know is out there. Memes, events, stories etc.
“I used to find it annoying. I didn't really know why half of it was relevant.
“But over time I've learned that she tags me in sh*t because it's funny, insightful or relevant to us and our relationship.
“Sometimes it helps her tell me something because it's so relevant and she couldn't have said it better herself. I try to make a point of acknowledging it. It doesn't take any effort at all.”
Explaining how it can even help them communicate, the Australian blogger continued:
“Sometimes it forms the basis of our conversations when I get home. So often I come home to a ‘Did you see that thing I tagged you in?’
“As silly as it sounds it helps us communicate.
Speaking from the other end of the spectrum, where he sees how men react to their partner’s tag, Brad added:
“Women tag men in basically everything I ever post. I always see the same reply of ‘I ain't reading that’ or ‘too long’… that's it.
“The conversation goes no further. Whatever message she was trying to send him was rejected because of sheer arrogance and inability to take a few f**king seconds to read something that was probably important to how she was feeling.
“Read the post. Just f**king read it. If she tagged you in it, she wants you to look at it. If you were at the park and she said ‘hey look at that’ would you ignore it?
“Would you make a snide remark about how much effort it will take you to see it? I think not.”
However, it’s not just dads who are guilty of doing this. As a mum, I too ignore a lot of what my other half tags me in.
Not because I’m being rude, but sometimes I just don’t have the time or the head-space to read it, and then when I do get to it it’s usually because he asked if I read it (and I quickly scan through).
Mums AND dads are busy; we’re both trying to squeeze a week’s worth of tasks into one day, and be there for the kids and our partners. There is simply not enough time!
But after reading Brad’s post, it certainly made me sit up and take note.
Yes, we’re all busy but, at the end of the day, if someone takes the time to tag you in a post that will make you laugh, learn something new or even cry, well it is up to us to take the time to read it.
And nothing turns a frown upside down better than a cat meme.
