Mum shares an honest post about married life after having children... and it is SO beautiful
Kate Brennan, otherwise known as The Domestic Queen, has shared her thoughts on how children affect a marriage in an honest post.
The mum-of-three goes through the different stages of life with her partner, reminiscing upon the times they enjoyed together before having kids.
The nights where she stated: “We explored the world one country at a time, sober by day, pissed by night.”
The couple spent most weekends hanging out with their friends, listening to music, buying expensive gifts for one another and attending weddings.
“We delved knee deep into each other’s lives and felt completely certain that our strong love would forever speak its narrative in this same way.”
“That our world would be a beautiful continuity of our current meaning,” added the mum.
But in the nine years that they have been married, a lot has changed for them.
Firstly, Kate gave birth to the couple’s first child, Max, who completely stole their hearts:
“We were so ready for our child in our home and in our hearts. We embraced his arrival with adoration and surrendered to the exhaustion and the shock.”
But it wasn’t always easy, and in the moments that Mum felt overwhelmed, it was her adoring husband that was there to listen to anything she needed to get off her chest.
Fast-forward three years and the couple’s second child Ava-Claire joined their world, with Kate revealing that their marriage had grown in strength too.
But alas: “In the rushness of life with two, and the hushness of putting two down to sleep and the tiredness in the evenings, he and I didn’t get to talk as much.”
“No time. Have to go to work, have to go to college, have to empty the dishwasher.”
Nonetheless, the couple’s third child arrived; a baby girl, Ella-Rose, and their lives became so busy Mum ‘barely had time to catch her breath’.
Like all couples though, it’s hard to find the time for just the two-of-you when you have an army of little ones around the corner.
But every now and again you do manage to find some small moments you can cherish:
“We have chased the nights and caught up just in time for a chinwag and a meal out. And those are the nights i think 'oh i miss you '.”
“We are as close as ever, our love is still intrinsically woven into our lives – it’s just that when 3 other weaves get in there, it’s hard to find the knot that tied the promise.”
Knowing they can’t go back in time, the busy mum takes comfort in knowing they have both changed as individuals, but their love is still as strong as ever.
“When children join the journey, it somewhat pauses. I don’t know what his favourite song is on the radio now. I don’t know what's on his mind as much. I don’t know things that I used to know.”
“But years from now when the kids have left, we can turn to each other and say hi again and we can get to know each other with long spoken and unspoken conversations…”
“Exploring the world one country at a time, sober by day, pissed by night.”
We’re bawling, this is so beautiful and an accurate description of a couple’s world with children, and how our lives can change.