Mum-of-two re-writes wedding vows, and absolutely NAILS real married life

While the MagicMum HQ is filled with die-hard romantics who have been known to weep at the greetings contained within Valentines' cards, we also know all too well that the relationships featured in the fairytales we read our children are as realistic as our promise to weed the garden this weekend.

And yet when we consider the vows we exchanged – or plan to exchange – on our wedding day, many of us can't get past love song lyrics and rom-com sentiments.

But one woman, with a decade of married life behind her, has decided to re-write her vows in an effort to properly reflect what it means to be in a life-long partnership, and it speaks to everyone here on an emotional level.

Bella Ellwood-Clayton, a sex and relationship writer from Melbourne, ditched the previous flimsy promises she made a decade ago, and instead opted to share an insight into what it really takes to be part of a marriage when renewing her vows this December.

From reflecting on the endless cycle of rebukes and recriminations followed by romance and reconciliation which feature in almost every marriage, this mother-of-two has it absolutely nailed.

In addition to promising her husband, she will "not compare our relationship to manufactured Hollywood film ideals", Bella added: "I will forgive you, endlessly. Partnerships of every kind are annoying. And long-term ones, even more so."

In a vow which will resonate with anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship, she also promised: "I will not compete with you about who "works" harder. I accept that we both work hard, even though our roles and responsibilities will change over time."

And while so many of her vows do admittedly focus on the practical – because this is real life after all – the relationship expert mde sure to acknowledge the importance of encouragement and gratitude in every relationship, married or not.

"I will remember to make you feel attractive and desirable and compliment you" she promised and vowed: "I will forgive you of all the faults that you share with our children."

Adding: "And be forever grateful that someone in the world can put up with mine."

And that's it ladies, we're all in bits.