Australian mum-of-four Constance Hall has hit back at parent shaming once again and we can’t help but love her for it.
The blogger who has amassed a whopping one million followers has recently been criticised – for WORKING!
In a passing comment, a woman, who Constance has never met, stated she sees the blogger on her laptop and phone all the time.
“How hard it must be for the kids to have a mum who works so much” the stranger continued.
In an Instagram post liked by over 18K users, the mother defended her right to be a working mum:
“I work because I want my children to see me as a woman who follows her dreams while meeting their needs.”
Recently my friend told me that she heard a women say that she sees me on my laptop and phone all the time and how hard it must be for the kids to have a mum who works so much. Defensively I reverted back to the fact that my children are well behaved and very loved and that's all that anyone needs to know. Why am I constantly defending my rights to work? While fathers are "putting food on the table" I am constantly criticised for my "choices" When the truth is that working is not a choice for me. Work is a break from what I consider the hardest job in the world, motherhood. And it's not supposed to be this hard. I recently heard the statistic that mothers today are spending 65% more time with their children then they did 30 years ago. Today we are expected to sleep with them, take them to swimming, school, volunteer at the school, teach them fucking French, read to them, let the baby lead the weaning, learn how to talk baby language…. Breast feed them until their 87, or stop straight away because we are creeps if we go beyond a year and on top of everything we are expected to be thin. Because you can totally see how a chubby mum certainly isn't giving her kids the best opportunities in life. And what makes it worse? All jokes aside… wine doesn't help. Because anyone who's ever had a hangover with kids knows the full meaning of FML. I work because I used to cry myself to sleep at the thought of being alone with my kids all day. I work because the expectations put on my work will never even come close to the expectations put on me as a stay at home mother. I work because I need financial freedom and not pocket money. I work because I want my children to see me as a women who follows her dreams while meeting their needs. I work because we don't live in a village anymore, we parent our kids alone and it's bloody lonely. And I was one of those children, born 30 years ago who's mum spent 65% less time with and I turned out pretty fucking cool. I can't speak French but I know how to live and I know how to love in parallel. And I work because I can love my kids more when I'm not overwhelmed by the consistency of living solely for them. So
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The mum doesn’t stop there, and continued to speak about the high expectations of parenting in today’s society:
“Today we are expected to sleep with them, take them to swimming, school, volunteer at the school, teach them f*****g French, read to them, let the baby lead the weaning, learn how to talk baby language…. Breast feed them until they’re 87, or stop straight away because we are creeps if we go beyond a year.”
This is the second time the young mother has had to defend her parenting choices to passer-by’s.
After an incident in the park when she was changing her daughter’s nappy, the mother was scrutinised while her husband was supported in the same circumstance.
“The truth is that working is not a choice for me. Work is a break from what I consider the hardest job in the world, motherhood.”
