Mum conveys the reasons she allows a messy house, and she might be right
We're all house proud in our own shape or form; for instance we wouldn't dare allow a human enter our home if there was dog hair on the couch.
However, another may not allow neighbours or relatives into their kitchen to see the dishes pile in the sink; each to their own we say.
In an accurate but eye-opening post on Suburban Shit Show, Nicole Johnson, makes it clear that having a clean home isn't the most important aspect of your home life though.
Growing up in a house where she couldn't touch anything and the dining room was constantly off limits, made her feel uncomfortable – something she doesn't want for her children or family.
The mum-of-four revealed she used to become stressed over the cleanliness of her house, but she also alludes to the fact when people commented on her clean house, they hadn't seen how it happened:
"What they didn't see was the lunatic who stressed to get it that way. The one who yelled at her kids and husband, running around dusting and sweeping, fussing over every imperfection."
All in an effort for people to think she had her shit together, Nicole realise that some things are more important, but old habits are often hard to shake too.
"Growing up, cleanliness was a virtue. It meant you were worthy. Of what, who knows? I spent every Saturday cleaning while my friends went out."
Carrying this ideology into motherhood, the New England mum, swiftly realised that her life was moving forward and with more children being added to her brood, she had less time to be worried about her house.
"I began to realise having a perfect house, a sparkling, spit shine house wasn't what I wanted. Sure, I could do it. I could spend every second ignoring the kids, ignoring my writing, ignoring my life and obsessing over it."
But Nicole decided not to. Because she doesn't want to be bogged down with the pressure and stress of keeping a sparkling house, but not being able to enjoy her children.
The mum-of-four wouldn't want her children missing play-dates or visits because she was too afraid to let people inside her home, unless it was nothing but perfection, the epiphany of suburban life.
Mum relents: "So now, you are welcome in our house whenever. Ignore the dust, or don't. It doesn't matter. I'm okay with it. Our house is not a museum. No house with kids or pets should be."
"A little dirt is good for the immune system, and the soul. Dirt means we are living."
Posting a snap of a pile of dust which had gathered in her home that she had failed to notice, Nicole believes it symbolises the fun she has been having this summer with her children instead of obsessing over her home.
"Life is short. Messes are constant. Time with your kids is fleeting. Enjoy it," added the mum-of-four.
For us, there's no point in having a perfectly 'clean' home if there's no memories to be made inside – get the paint out, the markers, the pencils, the train sets.
Those messy moments with your children will last longer in your memory than the time your clean floor wasn't clean anymore, because someday there'll be no one there to dirty them.