Dads get postnatal depression too - here's what to look out for

Welcoming a new baby can be exciting, but it is also overwhelming and doesn't come without challenges – and not just for mums.   

We've all heard a lot about postnatal depression (PND) in mothers, but it can affect dads as well and it's something we all need to be aware of.

Ranging in severity from mild to extreme, men generally experience PND within the first year of their child's life – and it can come on suddenly or develop gradually over time.  

According to research carried out by University College Cork, 10 per cent of dads worldwide are affected by PPND.

Lloyd Philpott, lead researcher told Irish Health, "In general, the mental health of fathers in the postnatal period is often not considered. This has resulted in men being underscreened, underdiagnosed and undertreated for PPND and other postnatal mental health problems." 

"Support from society, such as paid paternity leave, also helps fathers adapt to changes during the postpartum period. Paternity leave has been identified as one of the few policy tools available to governments to directly influence behaviour among fathers." 

There is no clear reason why mums and dads suffer from PND, but it is thought to be triggered by stressful or emotional events –  something that the birth of a baby can be. 

The change in routine, new financial burdens and pressures, and a lack of sleep are all thought to be contributing factors.

If your partner is suffering from PND, they are likely to experience one or all of the following symptoms:

• Low mood or feeling down
• Tiredness or unable to sleep
• Headaches or other physical pain
• Crying a lot
• Lack of libido
• Change in appetite lack of appetite is most common but comfort eating can occur
• Inability to cope, overwhelmed easily
• Panic attacks and anxiety
• Brain fog, lack of concentration or inability to make decisions
• Excessive worry about the baby, themselves or their family
• Thoughts of self-harm or about harming the baby
• Suicidal thoughts

So what should you do if you think your husband, partner or family member is suffering from post-natal depression?

1.  Talk to them

Some men can feel awkward talking about their feelings so don't push it if they are uncomfortable – but opening up the lines of communication is a good start. 

2. Schedule in down time

Make sure they are getting time for themselves by keeping up a hobby, getting out for a run or meeting a friend. IT can be tricky with a new baby in the house, but the odd hour can make all the difference.

3. Introduce them to other dads

It may help for new dads to talk to other new dads about parenting. Dads groups are becoming more and more common; talk to your midwife or GP for any in your local area. 

4. Offer support and encouragement

The support of family and friends is paramount to good self-esteem. Supporting new dads and offering a few words of encouragement can make all the difference to how they feel about themselves, especially with their parenting choices or styles.

5. Discuss your concerns with your GP or other healthcare professionals

If low moods, anxiety, panic attacks or other negative feelings or symptoms persist, it is best to seek medical advice. Your doctor or counsellor will be able to advise you on the best steps you can take to helping your partner ind themselves again. 

You can find out more information on paternal PND from Reach Out, or get support from contact Aware who support those experiencing depression.