Back-to-school tips to aid children with ADHD & autism ahead of the new term
With September right around the corner, it’s time to focus on the upcoming school year.
The anticipation of a new term brings excitement for many children, but for those with ADHD or autism, this period can be particularly challenging. Between new schools, new routines and new social interactions, anxiety may be heighted for some students, which means it’s crucial for parents to create a support system that works for their child to ensure they have everything they need to have a successful and fulfilling school experience.
Dr Selina Warlow, a clinical psychologist specialising in neurodiversity, has shared some strategies that can help parents support their children as they navigate the return to the school environment.
Check out Dr Selina Warlow tips below and help you and your child feel prepared for the new school year ahead. Since your tot’s journey is unique, their needs may evolve over time, so having these tips to refer back to will make for a useful tool all year round.
Establish a predictable routine
Children with ADHD or autism often thrive in structured environments. Before the school year begins, start implementing a daily routine that mirrors the school day. This includes waking up at the same time, having set mealtimes, and sticking to a consistent bedtime. A predictable schedule helps reduce anxiety and allows children to feel more in control. You can also create a visual schedule that outlines the daily routine. Dr Selina Warlow recommends using pictures or colour codes to represent different activities, making it easier for your child to understand and follow.
Collaborate with the school
Communication with teachers and school staff is really important. Share information about your child’s needs, strengths, and potential triggers with staff. Establishing a strong partnership with the school can lead to the development of tailored support plans. A top tip from Dr Selina Warlow is to schedule a meeting with your child’s teacher before school starts. This is a good opportunity to discuss any accommodations or modifications that may be necessary, such as your child meeting the teachers before the school year starts, if possible, extended time on tests, sensory breaks, or seating arrangements that minimise distractions.
Prepare for social interactions
For some children with autism, social interactions can be overwhelming. Role-playing common social scenarios, such as greeting a classmate or asking for help from a teacher, can boost your child’s confidence. Discuss strategies for managing social challenges, like finding a quiet space if they feel overwhelmed or using a stress-relief tool. If your child struggles to ask for help you could make a communication card which they could put onto their teacher’s desk to communicate how they are feeling or if they need help. Try to encourage participation in small-group activities outside of school to practise social skills in a less formal setting. This could be a hobby, class, sports team, or a playdate with a trusted friend.
Create a calming home environment
After a day at school, children may feel overwhelmed and need time to decompress after a busy day. Your child may benefit from a designated “quiet space” at home where they can retreat if they feel overwhelmed. This space should be free from distractions, filled with comforting items like soft pillows, weighted blankets, or their favourite books. Incorporate relaxation techniques into the daily routine, such as deep breathing exercises, listening to calming music, or engaging in mindfulness activities to help your little one learn to self-regulate their emotions and manage stress.
Encourage positive reinforcement
Children with ADHD or autism may face frequent challenges, so celebrating their successes, no matter how small, is important. Positive reinforcement can boost self-esteem and motivate your child to keep trying, even when they find things difficult. You may wish to use a reward system to acknowledge accomplishments or simply remind them how well they are doing. If you can recognise a child’s challenges but praise their resilience to overcome some of these every day, they are more likely to feel heard and understood.
Monitor and adjust as needed
Every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Regularly assess how your child is coping with the demands of school. If you notice signs of distress, such as changes in behaviour, sleep disturbances, or increased anxiety, it may be time to adjust your approach or seek additional support. You might consider keeping a journal of your child’s progress, noting any challenges and how they were addressed. This can be a helpful tool when communicating with teachers or specialists and for reflecting on what strategies have been effective.
Practice self-care
Supporting a child with ADHD or autism can be demanding, and parents often put their own needs aside. But maintaining your well-being is crucial to being an effective support system for your child. Take time for yourself, seek support from other parents or professionals, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Try to join a support group for parents of children with ADHD or autism. Sharing experiences and advice with others who understand your challenges can provide emotional relief and practical tips.
By Dr Selina Warlow – Clinical Psychologist and Neurodiversity Specialist