Are you far too nice? Here are 5 signs it's time to toughen up!
Are you often told you’re too nice? And why when you hear it are you confused by the negative connotations to that statement? Surely it’s nice to be nice?
Well yes, it is, but not when you’re wrecked tired after working and doing mum things all week yet you find yourself up until 3am making 20 apple tarts for the kids’ school fundraiser.
There’s definitely a happy medium. It’s nice to be nice, but it’s also nice to respect yourself, put yourself first at times and speak up when you’re not happy, no matter the reaction.
If you answer yes to one or more of these thing it’s time for you to get a little more selfish and say, “NO” once in a while. Repeat after us… NO. Nnnnnnnn….o. Come on, you can do it.
See, wasn’t so hard was it?
Saying “sorry” all the time
Has someone ever bumped into you yet it’s YOU who says sorry? Or even if something’s not your fault do you find yourself apologising? We know you’re just trying to be polite – but when you make yourself take responsibility for something you didn’t do, people will start to think it was your fault.
Never saying no
Baking those 20 apple tarts, minding your friend’s kids even though you don’t have the time, giving money to buy presents for the girl in work even though you're broke – yes, you want to be kind and make other people happy, but when it stresses or tires YOU, you need to start putting yourself first and saying NO.
You worry about everyone else except yourself
We know you love your kids, your partner and your family, but by putting them first and neglecting yourself, you’re not allowing yourself to be the best you. Your goals, dreams and aspirations are just as important as those of the people in your life, and if you push them aside it’s very possible you will eventually become not only resentful towards them, but mad at yourself.
You always agree to do the tasks no one else wants to
In your work and family life do you find yourself agreeing to do the unpleasant jobs, simply because you know others won’t want to. Yep, you’re a saint, we get that, but why should you have to be lumped with the stuff no one else wants? Ironically the more you do, the more people will take it for granted. Plus, people may see you as a ‘soft touch’ (“Ah Sue’s a good sport, she won’t mind”) and can begin to take advantage.
You let people away with murder
Yes, to err is human, to forgive divine, but what if someone is really taking the mick? Forgiving someone who deserves it is one thing, but justifying someone’s bad behaviour because you don’t want to argue is another.
Are you too nice? Or were you in the past? If you have any advice for our MagicMums we'd LOVE to hear it!